Hello dear readers, I know you all have missed me so much. I promise to write more often. I'm even writing exams right now but I just couldn't help but lift this off my mind. You see the topic up there? Sounds interesting right? The real topic should have been "NIGGA WHAT's WROOOONG WITCHU?". I'm seriously tired of men these days and their funny ways.
Recently, a few of my close friends have come forward with the same complaint.. unfaithful men. Now I know this so cliché. It's the order of the day. It's not a new thing. But as a deep thinker, I get really pissed when I try to decipher the rationale behind this animalistic behaviour that has eaten into our society. Where are all the good men? Is there any such thing as a faithful man? If he exists, BIKO where is he?
I'm using Nigeria as a case study today. I know this is a common occurrence everywhere in the world and has been going on long before I was born but really it is getting out of hand. Every young trendy and exposed girl can testify to a married man asking them out. Relationships are being broken everyday because of cheating partners. Now we are all humans, everybody makes mistakes but making it become a normal thing is what is annoying me.
Dear men, what is your problem? I'm really curious as to why yo just can't keep a good girl and be faithful to just that one girl. Why must you have a side chick? If u love so many beautiful women all at once why don't you remain single? Why subject an innocent lady to heartbreak and unnecessary stress? Is it by force? You see them everywhere. The married ones do not even care to hide their rings. Many of them already have women they have impregnated, paid bride price for, yet you see them chasing young pretty girls all around town. It just doesnt make sense to me. Is it the polygamst nature of African men thats the issue? Because these men include activists, public motivational speakers and even pastors. People that are supposed to be role models. They cant even be faithful to their partners. Is it the corrupt nature of Nigerians? The whole "corrupt leaders" issue we have in this country comes from the grassroots. The smallest child is already a corrupt Nigerian because he emulates his parents. Dishonesty is the order of the day. People are becoming more selfish, lustful and cruel by the day. That is why people are advised to love their partners. I as a person do not see the need to cheat on someone i love. The impulse doesnt just come to go and look for someone else. The question i ask myself is "what am i looking for"? If the woman of your dreams has a particular list of features, why not look for her and marry her? Why do you have to settle for less and start wasting your precious time and money on other women? You instead prefer to pick the unattractive, village girl and get her pregnant and leave her oppressed in your house and do whatever you like, destroying the lives of other men's future wives. The most annoying are these young boy that can barely fend for themselves, maltreating the girls that manage to give them attention and love. You go through the trouble to chase a particular girl, when you get her finally, you are still not satisfied and you are chasing after others. The poor girl is feeling like your one and only not knowing she has become a laughing stock because of you. Why the lies? Why do you have to use the mask of relationship to get into girl's pants? I believe the whole energy and time these men put into plotting and scheming can be used to do something more productive. The devil is obviously toying with the destinies of most men in this country.
We the girls have some of the blame also. The way you present yourself to a man is very important. There are many things we need to understand as girls. Maybe that would be my next post. Refuse to be taken for a fool. Refuse to fall for the same line over and over again. A man would do anything to get a woman he has set his eyes on so you girls can start by not being such attention whores and stop being freaked by what guys do to get down with you. Im hardly impressed by guys to be honest. I would rather sit back and watch them run in circles till they are exhausted.
Men should really stop this behaviour. And you can also drop in comments and reasons why men do what they do because honestly, im just lost. It is way too deep. Where can we find a good man? What went wrong?
Would stop here for now. You know i'm awesome, xoxo.
